Open up your Bibles.
Colossians 3:18-22 -
"18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. 20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. 22Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord.""18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." - Alright, this is
one of the most misinterpreted scripture verse in the whole Bible. Jesus died for the church. He was willing to sacrifice his life so that the church might have life. When Paul writes that wives should submit to their husbands, he is referring to their submission to the husband's leadership of the family as Christ led the church.
To understand this in context, let's look at the next verse:"19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." - That's right. Love. Love means that you are willing to treat your wife the
EXACT SAME WAY that Christ treated the church. If you need more motivation,
listen to Mike's message from this past Sunday about Honor. Wives, your role is to
support your husband's leadership of the family as Christ would lead the church. Husbands, your role is
to honor your wife by being willing to DIE FOR HER as Christ did for the church. Notice also the little caveat that Paul chucks in -
"do not be harsh with them." That means, when you disagree, don't scream, yell, or pitch a fit. Be calm. Be rational. Do not be harsh. Your wife is only trying to love and support you and sometimes that means a difference of opinion.
20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." - Kids
need to obey their parents. That makes God happy. But, just like husbands and wives, read the next verse in context:
"21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged." - I have to be honest, sometimes I struggle with this one.
It is so hard as a parent to watch your child deliberately disobey you. When Josh does that, I feel like I want to show him the consequences immediately and seriously impress upon him the fact that
disobedience leads to hurt and pain. I don't want him to disobey, I want him to obey, but I don't want to crackdown on him like a drill sergeant when he disobeys either.
He is 6 years old and he's going to make mistakes. The hardest thing as a Father is
judging between willful disobedience and a childish mistake. Here's what I've learned as a parent.
Let the mistakes go. Punish and swiftly correct willful disobedience, but let your child make those childish mistakes and then discuss with them why they happened. Otherwise, you'll raise your children bitterly and they will be disheartened and discouraged.
22Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord." - We are all slaves to Christ, but the slaves Paul is referring to, no longer exist within the confines of our culture. However,
you can very easily apply this to a working environment. (
Now you're all mad at me - aren't you!) Work at your job with everything in you, not only when your boss is standing over your shoulder,
but when they have the day off and they're not even in the office. You're not doing it for them, you're doing it for God.
We'll finish up this chapter tomorrow.